Ofri played a crucial role in our journey to become a family through surrogacy. The process was long and complex, presenting us with numerous questions and challenges regarding parenthood, especially as gay parents. From establishing a connection with the surrogate and the challenges of a long-distance pregnancy to the tension arising when meeting a baby growing in a foreign womb, expectations, months and years of anticipation brought us to this moment, somewhat overwhelmed but lacking the tools to process the experience.
In our sessions with Ofri, we found a space to discuss everything without judgment, in a safe and pleasant environment. Ofri guided us from the very beginning and has been (and still is) an invaluable source of support in our initial steps as parents. She served not only as a consultant for questions and disputes between my partner and me but also as a place for thoughts and deliberations regarding our cherished home with the goal of being fulfilled parents and complementary partners.
The division of roles between us was not clear, and being a non-normative family, we had to grapple with many dilemmas, such as maternity leave, baby nutrition and care, the issue of the 'primary caregiver,' and more. Naturally, the subject raised questions between us about gender and identity, and in our meetings with Ofri, we managed to break down the topic, disconnect from cultural and social norms, and open a new channel of communication between us on these issues.
For same-sex couples embarking on a similar adventure, I warmly recommend utilizing Oferi's wonderful capabilities. Throughout the process, the guidance that surrogacy agencies provide focuses on the bureaucratic aspects, the checklist of tasks before and after birth, helping to push aside that this is an exciting and challenging experience. The crucial part is not registering with the Ministry of Interior or obtaining a passport but giving space to our thoughts, tensions, and dreams. For so many years, I imagined us as parents, and Ofri helped us translate those dreams into reality.